By: Kara Macdonald
Merriam-Webster defines change as 1) to give a different position, course, or direction to AND 2) to undergo transformation, transition, or substitution.
We all go through change. Some more than others. Some by choice. Some not by choice.
When I think of change, I think of a metamorphosis. Over the past year, I have had two major changes in my life. Both were painful, but necessary. And now that I am on the other side, I can see that they were just what I needed.
The first definition I referenced above is about changing directions. I love this because it reminds me that I am in charge of the direction my life takes, most of the time. Now whether I have the courage to actually take a different direction is another story. Sometimes we know we should do something different. But, many times we don’t. Maybe we are scared. Maybe we aren’t willing to take a risk before knowing what is on the other side. The problem is, it’s almost impossible to know what is on the other side. Then what? We stay where we are or we take a leap of faith. Both are hard. The first is what we know. It’s not where we should be but it’s what we know. Taking a leap of faith requires faith in the unknown. Being uncomfortable. Maybe even failure. Either way, you’re in charge, most of the time.
I chose change. Both times. And, it was hard. Fear, nerves, tears, doubt, loneliness. Over and over and over. But, I found a little bit of faith and a little bit of strength. And it got easier. I found myself being less and less worried and stronger and stronger every day. I stayed in gratitude. That was key. Even if it wasn’t the type of gratitude we are used to. I was grateful for the journey. I needed to sit in it all and heal. The second definition I referenced above is about transformations. I have transformed. In so many ways. I am an overcomer. I will not be silenced or unappreciated. I will not be talked down to or made to feel like my feelings don’t matter. My transformation taught me I have a voice and a right to use it. I know myself better than I ever have. I can have hard conversations (this is a BIG one). I know I will always be okay no matter what. I am not sure I knew these things before. Not even a little.
If you feel stuck in anything or anywhere, I encourage you to make a change. No matter how little or how big. You are capable. And, on the other side, is freedom. And fulfillment. And joy. I wanted that for myself and I want that for you.